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[00:00:00] Speaker A: This show is not a substitute for professional counseling, and no relationship is created between the show host or guests and any listener. If you feel you are in need of professional mental health and are a UA student, we encourage you to contact the UA Counseling center at 348-3863. If you are not a UA student, please contact your respective counties crisis service hotline or their local mental health agency or insurance company. If it is an emergency situation, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
[00:00:42] Speaker B: Hi, everyone. Welcome back to the Baron Balance Podcast. I'm back as a guest. My name is Michael Dobbs.
[00:00:47] Speaker C: Welcome back, Michael.
[00:00:48] Speaker B: Thank you. Good to be back.
[00:00:50] Speaker D: Thanks for bringing us in. Yeah,
[00:00:52] Speaker C: no, that's. That was, like, the perfect intro,
[00:00:55] Speaker D: was
[00:00:56] Speaker C: Michael showed up, and we were just talking earlier, and as we were setting up today, crowd Michael into helping us set up, and, you know, there he is, strapped into a headset and in front of a mic.
[00:01:10] Speaker D: Yeah. When I walked in, Michael was sitting there. I was like, oh, Michael's with us today. And then he said something as we're sitting down. You're in your meeting.
[00:01:16] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:01:16] Speaker D: He's like, yeah, I'm not on the podcast today. And here he is.
[00:01:19] Speaker B: This wasn't my choice.
[00:01:21] Speaker E: You might have pressed Kingdom and Do it, but at this point, I mean, are you even. I feel like you're not even a guest anymore. You're just kind of. I
[00:01:27] Speaker B: feel like a local.
[00:01:27] Speaker E: Yeah, you're like the local.
[00:01:28] Speaker C: Yeah.
Kind
[00:01:30] Speaker D: of like. You ever watch the Pat McAfee Show?
You're like, A.J. hawk.
[00:01:35] Speaker C: A.J.
[00:01:35] Speaker D: hawk's not a part of the show, but
[00:01:37] Speaker C: it's
[00:01:37] Speaker D: there, like, every other day.
[00:01:39] Speaker C: That's so good.
Yeah. Now, you know, I mean, because you know how we do things now.
[00:01:45] Speaker B: This is fair. This is
[00:01:46] Speaker C: true. So you should. You could be our AJ Hawk.
[00:01:49] Speaker D: The only difference is, I mean, that guy's won a Super bowl international championship, and it's probably gonna be in the hall of Fame one day, so we gotta make some moves. Was
[00:01:58] Speaker B: that necessary? I don't gotta figure out
[00:01:59] Speaker C: something.
[00:02:00] Speaker E: I mean, I'm sure you still have a Covid year.
[00:02:03] Speaker B: Yeah, I do. I do. Yeah. Just wait.
[00:02:05] Speaker E: So walk on.
[00:02:06] Speaker B: I'm on the up.
[00:02:07] Speaker E: Walk on, Winnon. Addie.
[00:02:08] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:02:08] Speaker E: Get drafted.
[00:02:10] Speaker B: We'll see.
[00:02:11] Speaker C: It's your life's plan. So we're coming back from fall break on this episode, and we thought it'd be great just to, one, get together and just catch up with each other. Sometimes you have to do that. We have. You know, we haven't seen Each other for a while. And so I know what you guys were doing for fall break. Did it go pretty well?
[00:02:28] Speaker D: Yeah, it went great. Oh, I've got a question. Yeah. Did anybody dress up for Halloween?
[00:02:33] Speaker C: I didn't dress up for Halloween.
[00:02:36] Speaker E: I wasn't really in an environment where actually, I take that back. A lot of people where I was at were dressing because it was kind of like after like service thing.
But I did not feel like bringing that with me where I was going. Yeah, no, I didn't have.
[00:02:53] Speaker C: Oh, okay.
[00:02:54] Speaker E: A lot of people did.
[00:02:55] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:02:55] Speaker E: But I just said. I just threw on my sweater and said, yeah, I'm a performative male. Yeah,
[00:03:01] Speaker B: Nice.
[00:03:03] Speaker E: That's what I was. That's what I was doing. So nice.
You know, some people thought it was funny, Some people thought it was boring. But
[00:03:10] Speaker B: if I saw that, I would have loved it.
[00:03:11] Speaker E: I had more room in my bag. So, you know,
[00:03:14] Speaker C: made the most of that.
[00:03:15] Speaker E: Absolutely.
[00:03:16] Speaker C: Good. Did you dress up, Brooks?
[00:03:18] Speaker D: I did.
Can you take a guess? We'll go around. I'm pull up. Picture,
[00:03:24] Speaker C: Person, place or thing?
[00:03:27] Speaker D: Person.
[00:03:27] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:03:28] Speaker D: People.
[00:03:29] Speaker C: You dressed up as people? It
[00:03:31] Speaker E: was a group. I was. Ooh. Oh,
[00:03:32] Speaker C: you dressed up as part of a group.
[00:03:34] Speaker B: Minion.
[00:03:35] Speaker E: Part of a group. Was it like group as in like most people dressed as the same thing or you were like a three headed man?
[00:03:41] Speaker D: Multiple people dressed up.
Not necessarily as the same thing.
Same group. Was
[00:03:47] Speaker B: it from a TV show?
[00:03:49] Speaker D: No.
[00:03:49] Speaker B: Movie?
[00:03:50] Speaker D: No.
[00:03:51] Speaker C: Music group?
[00:03:52] Speaker E: You're a football player.
[00:03:54] Speaker D: I mean, very influential
[00:03:57] Speaker C: boy band. Was it a
[00:03:58] Speaker D: boy band? States of America.
[00:03:59] Speaker E: A Founding Fathers.
[00:04:01] Speaker D: Check this out.
[00:04:03] Speaker C: Whoa.
[00:04:04] Speaker D: Calvin.
[00:04:05] Speaker C: That is. That's pretty good. So Brooks, you're sharing. Tell everybody what you're sharing the picture of.
[00:04:11] Speaker D: So that's really good. We were the founding fathers for Halloween, but there was only three of us.
[00:04:15] Speaker C: Somebody's
[00:04:16] Speaker D: missing. We were the three founding fathers.
[00:04:17] Speaker C: That's good. And
[00:04:18] Speaker D: we ran into Calvin, our friend.
[00:04:20] Speaker C: Yeah.
Gosh, that's great.
[00:04:23] Speaker D: Oh, yeah.
[00:04:24] Speaker C: Did you. So who were you?
[00:04:27] Speaker D: You see, we never really came upon that.
[00:04:30] Speaker C: There's more the concept.
[00:04:31] Speaker D: Andrew Jackson, maybe.
[00:04:32] Speaker C: Okay, maybe. All right.
It's more the concept of it.
[00:04:37] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:04:38] Speaker C: That's cool. So that was during fall break.
[00:04:41] Speaker D: During fall break.
[00:04:42] Speaker C: Okay. Because Calvin's in Birmingham right now. Or where is he? No,
[00:04:46] Speaker D: Calvin's here.
[00:04:47] Speaker C: Wait, I thought he was in Birmingham at some point.
[00:04:50] Speaker D: He's getting his mba.
[00:04:52] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:04:52] Speaker D: So why
[00:04:53] Speaker C: was. I think he was in Birmingham or not Birmingham? Huntsville.
[00:04:57] Speaker D: I don't think so.
[00:04:58] Speaker C: Okay. That's just on me. Why would. We had him on the Podcast.
[00:05:01] Speaker D: We need to. I need to figure that out, actually.
[00:05:05] Speaker C: You'd be on this podcast?
[00:05:06] Speaker D: Yeah. He listens.
[00:05:07] Speaker C: Yeah.
So shout out to Calvin Hughes.
Well, we need to get you on either latter part of the semester or sometime next semester,
[00:05:16] Speaker D: for sure. I'll get with them.
[00:05:18] Speaker C: Okay. All right. Consider that invitation.
[00:05:21] Speaker E: Michael, what were you
[00:05:22] Speaker C: for Halloween? I
[00:05:23] Speaker B: didn't dress up, sadly. I got back from.
[00:05:26] Speaker E: Because you were hiking.
[00:05:26] Speaker B: Yeah, I got back my trip
[00:05:28] Speaker C: right at
[00:05:28] Speaker B: like 10pm And I think the first thing I did was shower. I was like four days without a shower.
[00:05:33] Speaker C: That's. That's a very ripe hike.
So you went to the. But you hiked with your friend the Smokies? I
[00:05:39] Speaker B: did.
[00:05:39] Speaker C: It sounded like an idyllic kind of adventure.
[00:05:43] Speaker B: It was very nice.
[00:05:43] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:05:44] Speaker B: I've never done anything like that.
[00:05:45] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:05:46] Speaker E: How was the weather up there? Was it.
[00:05:48] Speaker B: It wasn't that cold, surprisingly. I was like,
[00:05:50] Speaker E: clear and everything.
[00:05:51] Speaker B: Completely clear. Didn't rain. It was supposed to rain for a little bit, so it's kind of a. The perfect little trip. But I went with twins and I haven't hung out the other twin a whole bunch, just one of them.
[00:06:04] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:06:05] Speaker B: Very weird dynamic that I had to experience for like three days is
[00:06:08] Speaker C: identical. Fraternal.
[00:06:10] Speaker B: Fraternal
[00:06:10] Speaker C: twins.
Okay.
Michael comes up with the best adventure stories. I agree.
Because we won't get into earlier what you shared with us, because that's a whole different adventure. So I thought you were. Yeah,
[00:06:26] Speaker D: you keep us on our toes,
[00:06:28] Speaker C: man. I do my
[00:06:28] Speaker B: best.
[00:06:29] Speaker C: I. I thought you were.
I mean, if I'm not mistaken, you were going with a friend of yours.
[00:06:34] Speaker B: Yes, sir. It was with a friend, but he brought his brother. His
[00:06:36] Speaker C: brother. Oh, okay. Didn't realize that he was a twin. Identical twin is what you said.
[00:06:41] Speaker B: I think so.
[00:06:42] Speaker C: Do they look the same?
[00:06:49] Speaker B: They look pretty similar, but, like, I don't know if they're close enough to be identical.
[00:06:55] Speaker C: Okay.
Makes sense.
[00:06:57] Speaker B: No, you are not picking up what I'm putting down.
[00:06:59] Speaker C: No, no, no. I
[00:07:00] Speaker E: understand what you're saying.
[00:07:01] Speaker C: They could be fraternal, but they don't resemble each other. I.
Close enough.
[00:07:09] Speaker B: I have friends who are like identical twins, but they honestly look less similar than these two twins.
[00:07:16] Speaker D: Okay,
[00:07:16] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:07:16] Speaker D: I do know one set of identical twins that have kind of like when they were little, right. See pictures of them and you couldn't tell them apart, but.
[00:07:25] Speaker C: Oh, and as a grown old kind of. I see what you're saying.
[00:07:27] Speaker D: Look a little different.
[00:07:28] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:07:29] Speaker B: Yeah. I'm not crazy.
[00:07:30] Speaker C: No, no, no. We didn't. We didn't say that.
That's okay.
[00:07:36] Speaker B: Yeah,
[00:07:36] Speaker C: that's all right. But. So what was it a but? You weren't expecting that.
[00:07:41] Speaker B: I was not.
[00:07:42] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:07:43] Speaker B: Pleasant surprise.
[00:07:44] Speaker C: Okay. Nice.
[00:07:44] Speaker B: Yes, sir.
[00:07:45] Speaker C: Nice.
It. So it was just double the enjoyment then. Double
[00:07:50] Speaker B: the enjoyment. It was.
It was a very fun dynamic. So it was like. It was like being with my brother.
[00:07:58] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:07:58] Speaker B: From an outside perspective. That's all it was. I don't get to experience that very often.
[00:08:02] Speaker E: That's interesting.
[00:08:03] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:08:04] Speaker C: Being with your brother from an outside perspective,
[00:08:06] Speaker D: like their dynamics, like you
[00:08:08] Speaker C: watching. Watching them. I see what you're saying. Okay.
[00:08:11] Speaker D: Awesome. Well, I'm glad you got that experience.
[00:08:13] Speaker C: I can't.
[00:08:14] Speaker B: Thank you.
[00:08:15] Speaker C: I would love to see you and Collier together.
[00:08:17] Speaker B: Oh, gosh.
It's fun.
[00:08:21] Speaker C: Yeah. I can. I can't imagine the laughs or just the hilarity that. That ensues. You all know Collier.
Do you know him? Kai's a great guy.
[00:08:30] Speaker D: I know of him. Yeah.
[00:08:31] Speaker C: Such a great
[00:08:32] Speaker D: guy, him being SGA president. I
[00:08:34] Speaker E: remember him speaking at script day and.
[00:08:38] Speaker C: Sure,
[00:08:38] Speaker E: I think I talked to him maybe two times in the SGA office.
[00:08:41] Speaker C: Sure. That's right. Because you're FYC then.
[00:08:43] Speaker E: And that was really my only interactions with him.
[00:08:45] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. But
[00:08:47] Speaker E: I was like, chill. Dude must have a great brother. Yeah.
[00:08:49] Speaker C: Yeah,
[00:08:52] Speaker B: thanks.
[00:08:53] Speaker C: He's a great guy. But anyway, it sounded like it went well.
[00:08:57] Speaker B: It went great.
[00:08:58] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:08:58] Speaker B: It went great. Yes, sir.
[00:08:59] Speaker C: And it was. How many days? Two, three days
[00:09:01] Speaker B: we were out there? Four days.
[00:09:04] Speaker C: Four days. All
[00:09:04] Speaker B: right. How's Atlanta?
[00:09:06] Speaker C: Atlanta was wonderful. I enjoyed. I was with my.
My sister and her family, my nephews and their kids, and it was fun to see them trick or treating for the first time.
They came away with some pretty good stash, like, whole candy bars. And my nephew was decidedly needing to up his candy game because they had skittles and. What are they, like, little Starburst?
[00:09:29] Speaker D: Yeah, the little. Kind
[00:09:30] Speaker C: of like
[00:09:30] Speaker D: every.
[00:09:31] Speaker C: Smaller
[00:09:31] Speaker D: packs
[00:09:32] Speaker C: were just the four packs. I mean, nothing like the whole Hershey bars with almonds. So he was Halloween shamed, I guess, with his candy. It was fun. It was fun, though. Anyway, so, Michael, what are we doing? Our next segment. You want to take us out for this next segment?
[00:09:48] Speaker B: Like, close us out?
[00:09:49] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:09:50] Speaker B: Yeah.
We are ending the first segment. Thank you all.
[00:09:54] Speaker C: This is Bama Balance. We'll see you.
[00:09:56] Speaker B: This is Bama Balance. Bye, all.
[00:10:14] Speaker F: WVUAFM Teskalussa.
[00:10:17] Speaker A: This show is not a substitute for professional counseling. And no relationship is created between the show host or guests and any listener. If you feel you are in need of professional mental health and are a UA student, we encourage you to contact the UA Counseling center at 348-3863. If you are not a UA student, please contact your respective counties crisis service hotline or their local mental health agency or insurance company. If it is an emergency situation, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
[00:10:58] Speaker C: Welcome back, everybody, to our first segment on the bama balance. And today we're just going to freewheel it. We have nothing really planned out, but it's the first time we've seen every body together at the same table. And happy that Michael's joining us today. So, you know, I think part of being together is also catching up with each other, which is just a great way to spend some wellness time. So that's what we're saying. That's our story. We're sticking by it. And. But it is great. It's great to see everybody today. So nothing really planned. No real themes. We'll just be off the rails here. But
[00:11:33] Speaker B: I love it.
[00:11:34] Speaker C: Yeah. Michael, you were talking about. We were talking about you and Collier last segment and something about that reminding you of a story or something. You and Collier.
You remember what it was? Or fyc.
[00:11:48] Speaker B: Oh, that.
You mean you. Me tell. You Me tell that story?
[00:11:53] Speaker C: Yeah,
[00:11:54] Speaker B: the.
Yeah. So we had dinner with fyc, and I'm the fye one of the co directors for fyc right now.
I'm very surprised he asked me to tell a story. But we're sitting down and I asked the fyc fyce right next to me, like, what all do you know about me? Because they were saying stuff, a whole bunch of stuff about the other co director.
And the girl just looks me dead in the eyes and says, I know you're a nepo baby.
Which was great to hear.
[00:12:24] Speaker C: So she knew of Collier? She
[00:12:25] Speaker B: knew. She knew of my
[00:12:26] Speaker C: brother. Okay. Okay. How did you take that?
[00:12:29] Speaker B: I just laughed. It's funny.
[00:12:31] Speaker C: Yeah,
[00:12:32] Speaker B: there's. There's no.
She had no mal intent there.
[00:12:36] Speaker C: Yes. Yeah. Well, that. That sounds like it caught you by surprise. Anyway, that's pretty good. How is it with. How is color actually these days? What's he up to?
[00:12:45] Speaker B: He's doing good. He's still in Charlotte. Started a new job probably four months ago, and he's loving life. He's getting married in May.
[00:12:54] Speaker E: Is he really?
[00:12:55] Speaker B: Next year.
[00:12:56] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:12:57] Speaker B: So I got to plan the bachelor trip.
[00:13:00] Speaker E: Oh, boy.
[00:13:01] Speaker D: That's a trip I'd want to go on. If you're planning it.
[00:13:03] Speaker B: I have no clue. I'm going to do.
[00:13:05] Speaker D: Best part.
[00:13:06] Speaker B: I tried doing boondocky dune buggies. Dune buggies.
[00:13:11] Speaker E: Dune buggies.
[00:13:12] Speaker B: And, like, the desert in Colorado.
[00:13:15] Speaker E: There's a desert in Colorado?
[00:13:16] Speaker B: Surprisingly.
[00:13:17] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:13:18] Speaker B: And he shot that down. That would have been fun, though. So I think we're just golfing now.
It's not fun.
[00:13:26] Speaker D: Did you sign everybody up to go, like, skydive?
[00:13:29] Speaker B: I might do that and
[00:13:29] Speaker D: not. Not
[00:13:30] Speaker B: tell
[00:13:30] Speaker D: anybody.
[00:13:31] Speaker B: So I'm like, yeah, we're driving to the golf course. Just hop on the plane real quick.
[00:13:35] Speaker E: I actually booked a private flight to the golf course.
[00:13:38] Speaker B: Yeah. Jump out here.
[00:13:39] Speaker C: There it is. Jump out. Oh, my gosh. What's been. So have you. What's been your favorite, like, bachelor party so far? If you've gone to one or bachelor trip.
[00:13:49] Speaker D: I've been to one.
We went down to the beach and, like, spent a day on the beach and then played golf, and it was a lot of fun.
I think we're about to start amping it up here in a little bit, though. Oh, yeah. Got people getting engaged left and right.
[00:14:04] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:14:06] Speaker D: So step. Time of time, of our lives. I
[00:14:09] Speaker C: was gonna say. Yeah. Because you got friends who are getting engaged or getting married and maybe some having kids or something like that. I don't know.
[00:14:21] Speaker B: But I have some Auburn friends that are probably not too far out.
[00:14:25] Speaker C: Really. Okay. How were. So perspective wise, what's your.
[00:14:30] Speaker B: Please don't ask me how close I am getting married.
[00:14:32] Speaker C: No, I'm not. I was gonna ask you that at all. Just.
I mean, unless you want to share that with us, Michael, but. Or anybody. Me.
[00:14:40] Speaker E: Oh, I'm.
Y' all are the ones with girlfriends.
I am loving my life right now. Just.
[00:14:47] Speaker C: There we go. Yeah. I just want to think, perspective wise, what's it like seeing other friends get married or get engaged and stuff?
[00:14:53] Speaker E: Weird. Yeah,
[00:14:54] Speaker B: it is weird.
Very weird.
[00:14:56] Speaker E: It's also, like, my only experience going to weddings has either been, you know, as a child or, like, seeing my sisters get married. And I'm the youngest, so, like, all my sisters are older.
[00:15:06] Speaker C: Right.
[00:15:07] Speaker E: So now that it's, like, people my age getting engaged, getting married, I'm like, this feels not normal, I guess. Yeah, it feels like.
It's just. I don't know. It feels foreign in the same way that, like, college feels foreign when you. When you first come to college. It's just like, more so the announcing of, like, okay, wow, we're in a new stage of life where we're having to, you know, buy houses and such. Yeah. Figure all that out. And that's.
[00:15:31] Speaker C: It's a new thing. It's a
[00:15:32] Speaker E: new
[00:15:32] Speaker C: thing. Adulting or whatever it is that they're calling it. Yeah, it's a new thing.
[00:15:38] Speaker D: I honestly, weddings are my favorite thing ever.
[00:15:42] Speaker C: Really? That's cool.
[00:15:44] Speaker D: Which I've started going to more of them. Like. Yeah. I mean, I wasn't here the first four weekends of school. Wedding. Wedding. Wedding.
[00:15:50] Speaker C: Oh. Oh, yeah. I do. Wedding this
[00:15:52] Speaker D: weekend.
[00:15:53] Speaker C: Are you really?
[00:15:54] Speaker E: We're at
[00:15:55] Speaker D: Dothan, baby.
[00:15:56] Speaker E: Really?
[00:15:56] Speaker C: All right.
[00:15:57] Speaker E: Represent Dothan, Alabama
[00:15:59] Speaker C: City.
[00:16:00] Speaker E: I think you maybe told me about this. You definitely have. Yeah.
[00:16:03] Speaker D: So, yeah, I think it's awesome. And I mean, realistically, when your friends are getting married, that's a lot of fun, because it's like a big reunion.
[00:16:09] Speaker C: That's right.
Yeah.
[00:16:11] Speaker D: But, I mean, the ceremonies are fun, I notice. You know, that's important.
[00:16:16] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:16:16] Speaker D: But I'm big on the
[00:16:18] Speaker E: receptions.
[00:16:19] Speaker C: Reception part. Yeah.
[00:16:20] Speaker D: I think
[00:16:20] Speaker C: that's. That is always fun.
[00:16:22] Speaker E: Those are a ton of fun.
[00:16:23] Speaker C: It's always fun,
[00:16:23] Speaker D: I think.
But I mean, seriously. And you all probably see it more and more, but, I mean, we've got people checking it off left and right now.
[00:16:32] Speaker C: Like, how many of your friends do you know that are already either engaged or have wedding plans?
[00:16:38] Speaker D: A lot.
[00:16:39] Speaker C: Okay.
Okay.
[00:16:41] Speaker D: A lot.
[00:16:42] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:16:43] Speaker B: Once you graduate, it's probably one of the only occasions, like, you see all your friends in one place again.
[00:16:48] Speaker D: Yeah.
Since we've been here this year, I'd say the Georgia game was kind of one exception, but other than that, it's really weddings.
And still, even the Georgia game, not everybody was here, but
[00:17:04] Speaker B: it's fair.
[00:17:05] Speaker D: The first big wedding that somebody will have, it'll be.
It'll be. Everybody comes, I guarantee.
[00:17:12] Speaker C: Gosh. Is anyone close to that?
[00:17:15] Speaker D: Yeah.
Actually, we have one this summer.
[00:17:18] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:17:18] Speaker D: Maybe two this summer. We have one last summer.
[00:17:21] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:17:22] Speaker D: One of our pledge brothers, but he was a year older, so he was just in our pledge class.
But this summer, we've got two coming up.
[00:17:29] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:17:30] Speaker D: So,
[00:17:31] Speaker C: gosh, it really kind of marks passage of time, too, doesn't it?
[00:17:34] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:17:36] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:17:37] Speaker C: Right?
I mean, when you see. When you see friends get engaged or married, what is it that was it that you think of for yourselves?
[00:17:46] Speaker B: I got to hurry up.
[00:17:47] Speaker C: You got to hurry up.
[00:17:50] Speaker B: I'm behind.
I'll see.
I'll see. Like, people I haven't talked to, like, friends from high school. I haven't seen a minute. Like, a minute.
[00:17:57] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:17:58] Speaker B: Post on Instagram, like, their engagement photos. I've never seen this girl before.
Like, what am I doing?
[00:18:05] Speaker C: Oh, interesting.
[00:18:06] Speaker B: I got to speed this up,
[00:18:08] Speaker C: huh?
[00:18:08] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:18:09] Speaker C: Is there, like, a timeline or time frame
[00:18:13] Speaker B: on, like, for our age group? Yeah.
[00:18:16] Speaker C: Or does it feel like. No, in general, does it feel like there's a deadline by which you need to meet this?
[00:18:22] Speaker B: Maybe a deadline of, like, the minimum amount of time when you should do it.
[00:18:27] Speaker C: Okay.
Okay.
[00:18:29] Speaker B: I would say.
[00:18:31] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:18:31] Speaker B: Ooh, tricky question here. I put myself in this position, like, probably over a year.
[00:18:39] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:18:41] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, that's the minimum.
[00:18:44] Speaker D: I agree with that. I think. I think there's a fine line, though, between, like, younger people getting married. Right. Like, people our age.
[00:18:51] Speaker C: Right.
[00:18:51] Speaker D: And then, like, maybe some older, like, like 28, 29, 30.
[00:18:57] Speaker C: Right. I
[00:18:57] Speaker D: feel like their. Their dating periods become a lot shorter.
[00:19:00] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:19:00] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:00] Speaker D: Because, you know, they are older.
[00:19:02] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:02] Speaker D: But I feel like for us, like.
[00:19:04] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:19:04] Speaker D: Year two, probably,
[00:19:06] Speaker E: there's a dis. Like, there's a difference even among, like.
Because, I mean, you're in grad school, more seniors. I think you can look at, like, post grad as being the beginning of that. Like, there's a shorter.
[00:19:19] Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
[00:19:20] Speaker E: Period of time. Like, postgrad. It could be, you know, like, maybe a year. But I feel like when you're in undergrad, it's like you're. Well, obviously you're not going to get married when you're undergrad, for obvious reasons. I mean, that. Well, I mean, you maybe could. I don't know.
[00:19:31] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:19:32] Speaker E: There are people that do it.
[00:19:33] Speaker C: Some friends who done it.
[00:19:34] Speaker E: Yeah.
It's not orthodox.
[00:19:36] Speaker C: Right. Rather, I mean, they were seniors at the time. I mean, you know, they were getting ready. A
[00:19:40] Speaker E: freshman's probably. Probably shouldn't.
[00:19:42] Speaker C: Right.
[00:19:43] Speaker E: But I do think, like, after, you know, postgrad is when it gets like. Okay, well, there's. It seems to be like everyone's timelines gets a lot. Get a lot smaller for everything, really, frankly. I mean. I mean, it's dating and. But I mean, it's also like, you know, jobs and trying to.
Where you're living all these different things. You want to get those. At least from what I've observed from my family and other, like, my sister's friends and all that stuff.
[00:20:10] Speaker C: So is Mary Kate the oldest?
[00:20:12] Speaker E: Mary. No. Okay, so it's Kate.
[00:20:14] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:20:16] Speaker E: Mary Dean.
[00:20:16] Speaker C: Mary Dean
[00:20:17] Speaker E: is.
[00:20:18] Speaker C: Okay. Okay.
[00:20:19] Speaker E: Case. The oldest. Mary Dean's the second oldest. And then Bess.
[00:20:22] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:20:23] Speaker E: Is the youngest of the sisters, a
[00:20:27] Speaker C: bit
[00:20:27] Speaker E: older than me still.
[00:20:28] Speaker C: Okay. And then you.
[00:20:29] Speaker E: And then me.
[00:20:29] Speaker C: So when did Kate get married?
[00:20:31] Speaker E: She got married, like, a week after she graduated.
[00:20:36] Speaker C: All right.
[00:20:38] Speaker E: But she had. She started dating my brother in Law, I think her junior year. So they had dated about two years.
[00:20:45] Speaker C: I see.
[00:20:46] Speaker E: And then Mary Dean got married after not even a year dating. Low key. But they had met outside of college. Like, they met postgrad.
[00:20:53] Speaker C: Oh.
[00:20:53] Speaker E: He was in law school and she was working.
[00:20:55] Speaker C: I see.
[00:20:56] Speaker E: For her sorority nationals.
And it was just interesting because I was like, they're just. They were in a different stage to where they had already kind of settled on where they were going to be. So it.
[00:21:06] Speaker C: Right.
[00:21:07] Speaker E: Made it easier to commit to that sooner. I guess
[00:21:09] Speaker C: that. That makes sense. I guess what I was wondering is that, you know, is, you know, do you have. Is there a timeline or a time frame that you have for.
For marriage or other significant kind of events? And if so, is that. Is that based on your own perspective or other? Like, what you see around you from what friends are doing.
[00:21:33] Speaker B: Definitely see around you, because I. I definitely have some friends who, like, love their girlfriend and would love to get engaged within.
[00:21:43] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:21:43] Speaker B: Three months of talking to a girl or dating a girl. But, like, that's not a good standard.
It's not.
[00:21:50] Speaker E: The track record for that is not.
[00:21:52] Speaker D: Do we really know each other?
[00:21:53] Speaker B: Yeah. Do you really know each other? So, like, I would say that is more a what you see around you thing, and I think that's how it should be. It probably helps a lot of relationships, huh?
[00:22:05] Speaker C: What's some. I don't know. Well, this is not even a fair question. I was gonna say, what's the minimum amount of time? But really, it sounds like it depends on how you are in the relationship. Right.
[00:22:14] Speaker E: And circumstance, too, I think.
[00:22:16] Speaker B: Without a doubt.
[00:22:16] Speaker D: I think circumstance has a lot to do.
[00:22:18] Speaker B: A lot of people wait until they're more financially stable out of college.
[00:22:22] Speaker C: Right.
[00:22:22] Speaker B: And then for different people, that takes their amount of time.
[00:22:28] Speaker D: I think there's pros and cons to. To the financial side of things. Yeah.
[00:22:33] Speaker C: Uhhuh.
[00:22:34] Speaker D: But that definitely is a reason. I mean, imagine, like, I'm thinking about my grandparents right now.
[00:22:39] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:22:39] Speaker D: My grand. My grandmother was like, two weeks out of high school. She was 18 years old. My granddad was in the Navy going up to Washington.
[00:22:48] Speaker C: Wow.
[00:22:49] Speaker D: I mean, like, not even after six months after she graduated high school. Takes her to Washington with them. Wow. They're married.
[00:22:56] Speaker E: The. The state or Washington.
[00:22:57] Speaker D: Washington state.
[00:22:59] Speaker C: Wow. How did they. Like, how do they feel about that? That's huge move. And
[00:23:04] Speaker D: my nana's like, I don't know what my dad was doing. Let me go. But I mean, now, of course, it all worked out. They've been married for 60 years, probably. That's
[00:23:13] Speaker C: amazing.
[00:23:15] Speaker D: So. But back then, that's kind of just how it was, I guess.
[00:23:18] Speaker C: I guess. So
[00:23:19] Speaker D: everybody going off to war. Right? Sort of thing.
[00:23:22] Speaker C: Right, right. Yeah. Because that was the.
That was the sort of prevailing trend or what was happening around them at the time.
[00:23:29] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:23:30] Speaker C: Yeah, that makes sense.
[00:23:31] Speaker D: Kind of the same. Similar now in the aspects of, like. I feel like our parents, like, almost waited to get out of college a little bit, possibly. Right. I feel like it's coming back earlier, right out of college.
[00:23:44] Speaker B: Oh, you think it's coming earlier than our parents generation?
[00:23:48] Speaker C: That's what I'm doing
[00:23:49] Speaker E: more than, like, millennials,
[00:23:50] Speaker D: I think, for sure.
[00:23:51] Speaker C: That's what I've noticed. You
[00:23:51] Speaker B: think it's going to keep getting earlier? So you think you'll ever come back to that, like, freshman year of college?
[00:23:59] Speaker D: I don't know. With the. I feel like more people go to college now, you know what I mean, Than back then.
[00:24:06] Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
[00:24:07] Speaker D: So I feel like most people would like to wait till they got out of college, but I could definitely, definitely see it, like, happening more with, like, within college.
[00:24:17] Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
[00:24:18] Speaker D: Because, I mean, people are getting engaged left and right senior year now.
[00:24:22] Speaker C: That's the way. That's what it seems like, isn't it? I mean, and it's probably hard to avoid that news if you're on social media, because it's everywhere.
[00:24:32] Speaker D: You see it for
[00:24:33] Speaker C: sure. Gosh.
[00:24:34] Speaker B: The only thing with that, like, getting engaged in college, I've thought about this fair amount. Like, so if you're in Greek life, it would be weird to go to, like, a date party with your fiance.
[00:24:45] Speaker C: Like,
[00:24:47] Speaker E: just like, like
[00:24:48] Speaker D: the,
[00:24:49] Speaker E: like,
[00:24:49] Speaker B: just the idea going to a date, like, with your fiance, that's just. Oh,
[00:24:55] Speaker C: I see. Different.
[00:24:55] Speaker B: That's just a different thought to me. I
[00:24:56] Speaker C: see what you're saying.
[00:24:57] Speaker D: Yeah. I know a few people that I was actually in a wedding, the wedding I was in the summer. They were engaged last year, senior year.
[00:25:04] Speaker B: So when
[00:25:04] Speaker D: they
[00:25:04] Speaker B: come to.
[00:25:05] Speaker D: When they come to date parties, they were engaged. And I thought it was awesome.
[00:25:08] Speaker B: Yeah, it's pretty cool. But, like, it's just a crazy thought.
[00:25:10] Speaker D: I actually got asked to be in their wedding at a pregame before a date party.
[00:25:19] Speaker C: How fun is
[00:25:19] Speaker E: that?
[00:25:21] Speaker C: It was awesome. It is. Yeah. Yeah, yeah,
[00:25:23] Speaker D: it was awesome.
[00:25:24] Speaker C: That's like the best time to.
[00:25:25] Speaker B: Yeah,
[00:25:26] Speaker D: yeah. I mean, yeah, we were having a great time.
It elevated the time after that, so.
[00:25:33] Speaker C: No, I think that's cool. I think it's cool. This is, you know, there's no telling what we are going to be talking about when we get to going off the rails, but it sounds like we're talking about certainly some prospective life events and, and markers in life, which is all good. I think it's, it's fair game when we're catching up with each other, but this has been a lot of fun.
We'll be back for the next segment. Maybe we'll talk more about this or some other aspects of whatever we choose to talk about. Anyway, stick with us. This is the Bama Balance.
[00:26:23] Speaker F: Wvuafm Tuscaloosa.
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[00:27:07] Speaker E: Hello, everyone. Welcome back to the Bama Balance podcast.
You know, like, like we talked about, we're going a little off the rails today and Michael has this mysterious question for Brooks that, you know, is getting us a little on edge. But I'm excited to hear what this is, Michael.
[00:27:22] Speaker B: It's not a bad question.
So I feel like in undergrad everyone's fairly comparative. Like, everyone likes to say, like, this person's doing this and I'm not doing that. Like, they have better grades than me. Do you think life after undergrad is the same? Like, everyone's still just as comparative. Like, but honestly, on a larger scale because people are doing their jobs, people are getting engaged and buying houses.
[00:27:50] Speaker D: I mean, yeah, I, I think people are comparative all throughout life, honestly. Like, even parents, I think, honestly, you may see it a little more post grad, just based off of, like, where people are living circumstances with like, oh, these people may be engaged or getting married and I don't even have a boyfriend. You know, that sort of. I feel like that's a lot of it. But then also like, oh, they bought a house, they're in an apartment.
You know, I've got this nice job. Yeah, I've got kind of like a kick, kickstart job.
I think it's.
I don't think that ever leaves the, you know, sadly, it's
[00:28:32] Speaker B: just more, more things. People comparing.
[00:28:34] Speaker D: Yeah, I think you're just On a larger scale.
[00:28:37] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:28:38] Speaker D: You know, and that's unfortunate. Like, I don't think anybody should. Like, you shouldn't base your actions or when you do something based off of others. But, you know, that's. That's just how people think, how we're wired as humans. But there's definitely some of that.
I would say grad school, not as much, but post grad in general, probably.
[00:29:04] Speaker B: I could see that
[00:29:05] Speaker D: probably at a high rate.
And that's because grad school, like, I mean, we're all in grad school. We got accepted into grad school there. There may be some within the CPA exam. Like, oh, this guy's passed two tests. Like, I've only passed one or none that could be a comparison. But other than that, I mean, you know, you know,
[00:29:24] Speaker B: there's always something.
[00:29:25] Speaker D: Yeah, I think there's always something to compare. So
[00:29:29] Speaker C: did your expectations, as you were anticipating grad school pan out to actually being in grad school, or were they different?
[00:29:39] Speaker D: I think grad school, which. There's a lot of different programs, and I think our. Our.
The master's in accounting at Alabama Tax and just normal accounting keep a good, like, mindset of we're having to study for the CPA exam and they want us to do that before we start work.
And truthfully, that test is pretty. I mean, it's a bear.
[00:30:01] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:30:02] Speaker D: So I think they do a good job of kind of keeping classes more on the chill, lax side of things so you can prepare for that test.
I'd say that's the thing I was shocked about the most. I thought it'd be all go or more all go in the classroom than it is, but. And most of the stuff they do in class teach you about the exam, but we're more of a group project. And that kind of shocked me a little bit
[00:30:30] Speaker C: too. Okay.
[00:30:31] Speaker D: Which I was telling earlier that, you know, like, we've worked internships, we've done all of our undergrad, and the kind of work that accountants do is kind of hard to test on at this point because we're supposed to know that sort of thing.
So, like, these group projects are like, kind of like us actually doing the work, which is pretty cool because they bring a lot of real world.
[00:30:53] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:30:54] Speaker D: You know, problems and stuff into it. So that's cool.
[00:30:58] Speaker C: Like application of casework or something. Yeah, it's more
[00:31:01] Speaker D: application of knowledge than. And I mean, you obtain knowledge during that, of course, but it's more application based, I think.
[00:31:09] Speaker C: Right.
Michael, you're headed off to grad school next year? Yeah.
[00:31:14] Speaker B: Yes, sir.
[00:31:15] Speaker C: How are you feeling about it?
[00:31:16] Speaker B: I feel good. I'm Excited.
I'm excited, considering I just got in probably last week.
[00:31:21] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:31:21] Speaker B: But I am, like, the nerves are building up a little bit. So be people from, like, who knows where in the country. And international students are very on top of, like, their game, very smart. I'm just hoping I can, you know, stick in that with them. See, I'm already comparing them.
[00:31:38] Speaker C: Yeah. I was wondering where your question was coming from, because it really. It makes sense, too. Right. Because part of that anticipation is, you know, how am I going to match up? Or how am I going to compare with. With others?
Makes total sense.
[00:31:53] Speaker B: It's a tough thought.
[00:31:54] Speaker D: A bunch of you'll think this is very interesting. Probably be beneficial to you. When we did orientation, we had, like, a past student panel, and there were a few. Like, one student was in law school that was going to be a tax law person, but had been in the mta. They pulled two out of just, like, normal jobs, and then one of them works for the athletic department, and all four of them hit on a point multiple times. And that was like, don't ever feel like you're. You don't deserve to be here, or. People are that much smarter than you. They did the same thing you did to get in in the first place.
[00:32:32] Speaker B: That's. And
[00:32:32] Speaker D: you know how tough it is to get in. So you. You're qualified enough as is.
Yes. There may be a few more people that have, you know, advanced terminology or something like that, but, like, at the end of it, you're both in the same program. You both got accepted in the same program. You're going to graduate at the same time. It's even playing field.
So keep that in mind.
[00:32:55] Speaker B: That might be the best thing I've heard in a long time. That was great.
[00:32:58] Speaker D: But, yeah, I've. I've held on to that, too, because, I mean, that is kind of a struggle. I mean, you look at other people that are, you know, I mean, there are some really smart people out there, but, like, in the end of the world, like, you know, they're doing the same thing you are. You're all working towards the same time. So.
Yeah,
[00:33:16] Speaker C: I like that.
And were you. Are you, like, down the grad school track? I know you were thinking about it.
[00:33:23] Speaker E: I mean, that's the plan. Yeah. Yeah.
I need to, like, get on that.
[00:33:31] Speaker C: No, I love the fact that.
That it's. It's part of the plan, but, you know, you get to it when you get to it.
[00:33:40] Speaker E: Yeah. And, you know,
[00:33:41] Speaker C: not. Not that there isn't some urgency, but.
[00:33:44] Speaker E: And there. And There definitely should be more, I think, but part of it is the program that I'm looking at. It's still. I mean, it's the public policy one here. Yeah, I'm looking at that one, among other things.
But that's one that piques my interest a lot. But they're still trying to. They're still figuring that out.
[00:34:00] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:34:02] Speaker E: So hopefully, you know, there will be more clarity there in the future. I think there will be, but I mean, there's other programs I'm going to, you know, apply to and just see where, you know, what I get into and then go from there. But I definitely want to go here. I don't want to be anywhere else. And it just. I mean, it makes sense to stay, and I love it here. So I don't really see.
[00:34:23] Speaker C: No, I. I think. I think it'd be great to have you here for grad school. And what I was thinking about is, is you strike me as a person who would also be thankful for a gap year.
[00:34:38] Speaker E: Not really.
[00:34:38] Speaker C: Before. Before grad school.
[00:34:40] Speaker E: I think I would rather not
[00:34:42] Speaker C: really,
[00:34:42] Speaker E: because I. The older I get, the more I am ready to work,
[00:34:48] Speaker C: and
[00:34:48] Speaker E: I don't think I would want to. And I mean, like,
[00:34:51] Speaker C: yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:34:52] Speaker E: Job, job. Not like a summer job or. But like, I want to, you know, enter into that part of life more than. I don't know. I'm not wishing away what I'm. Where I'm at right now, but, you know, I see it as being, you know, appealing in a lot of ways. And I think seasons are seasons in the end. And you're kind of, you know, oftentimes, like, we especially, you know, you go into the fall and winter, and you love the cold at first, but then it gets to a point where, like, I really wanted to warm up, and I think that's. That's where I'm getting to a little bit. So I think a grab year would be cool, but I don't really know what I would do.
[00:35:24] Speaker C: I see.
[00:35:26] Speaker E: And I would. I would love to work as soon as possible. So, you know, ideally, just get. Do it in five and then
[00:35:34] Speaker C: get your career underway, all that,
[00:35:37] Speaker E: especially with, like, the foundational philanthropic career. I mean, it's. It's. It'll be good to go ahead and start getting in the weeds of that a little bit.
[00:35:44] Speaker C: How do you break into that career path? I know you've done some stuff with Walker County. I
[00:35:50] Speaker E: mean, I think it's just. You have to.
You have to really seek opportunity there. But also, I mean, there's Opportunity to be had.
My plan right now is like start hopefully in corporate philanthropy and.
And learn because I've gotten the small town.
Not that the foundation is small, but the area they service is a small town community. I'd love to get, you know, large like experience on a larger scale for, you know, a foundation that. Or some kind of philanthropic organization that helps, you know, more people and then split the difference somewhere. Take that back home, figure out where I can implement that into Dothan.
[00:36:25] Speaker C: Right.
[00:36:25] Speaker D: Create your own.
[00:36:27] Speaker E: I mean,
[00:36:28] Speaker D: now we're talking.
[00:36:29] Speaker E: That's.
[00:36:32] Speaker C: I like it.
[00:36:33] Speaker E: There's opportunity.
[00:36:34] Speaker C: I like it. What would you name it?
[00:36:36] Speaker E: Oh, I mean, I wouldn't be the one in charge of all that.
But I mean, if I were. If I had to name one, I would just probably say like wire. You're in like southeast Alabama.
[00:36:46] Speaker C: Okay.
[00:36:46] Speaker E: Or
[00:36:47] Speaker B: it's very creative.
[00:36:48] Speaker E: Dothan.
[00:36:49] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:36:49] Speaker E: Area. Yeah. Yeah.
[00:36:52] Speaker C: Wiregrass
[00:36:53] Speaker E: Foundation's already taken, so. Yeah.
[00:36:55] Speaker C: Okay.
Tbd. You
[00:36:57] Speaker D: can always ask Chad GBT or something.
[00:36:59] Speaker E: That's true. I mean, Chad GBT is going to rule the world anyway in about 10 years. So
[00:37:03] Speaker C: take advantage.
[00:37:04] Speaker E: Might as well go ahead and get on his good side or it's good side. I don't know if it's a him.
[00:37:09] Speaker C: Yeah, you didn't. So all this talk about, you know, future planning and time on weddings and things like that makes me think of like, right now in your life right now, what are you most enjoying? Like right now? What's the best part of your life right now?
[00:37:36] Speaker B: What a question.
What a question.
[00:37:39] Speaker C: Because we're talking about all these, like, getting ready for the future sort of timelines for. For marriage and careers and.
But like right now, you know, what is it that is the best part about your life right now?
[00:37:56] Speaker B: I would say I'm less busy this senior year and as senior year goes on, it's just slowly getting slower.
[00:38:03] Speaker C: Yeah,
[00:38:04] Speaker B: I'm really appreciating that. Like, I'm not constantly thinking about what I have next in the next 15 minutes. It's just. I'm done with the day.
[00:38:14] Speaker C: I
[00:38:14] Speaker B: can relax. So it's kind of.
I'm getting to experience the day more.
[00:38:20] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:38:20] Speaker B: Which is very nice.
[00:38:22] Speaker C: Nice.
Kind of appreciating the moment.
[00:38:26] Speaker B: Without a doubt.
I wrote a really good quote recently that I would love to say. It was about this. It was.
I kind of thought back to that. It was.
You should always have the goal of just experiencing.
Because if your goal is a summit, then the rain is a failure.
If your goal is to arrive, then a delay is a Failure. But if your goal is to just experience, then the rain is part of it. The delay is part of it. The day where you don't do anything is part of it. So nothing can go wrong if everything is just to experience it.
[00:39:03] Speaker C: That's so good. That's
[00:39:04] Speaker E: pretty good.
[00:39:05] Speaker D: That was very good.
[00:39:07] Speaker C: That's so good.
[00:39:09] Speaker B: That's how my day is going.
[00:39:10] Speaker D: Where'd you get that quote? From
[00:39:12] Speaker B: the head? No, I'm just kidding. I read it from a book. Yeah,
[00:39:16] Speaker D: that's solid right there.
[00:39:17] Speaker C: That's good.
You just given us a title for this podcast. I think. Michael.
[00:39:23] Speaker B: Just experience it.
[00:39:24] Speaker C: Yeah. Something. There
[00:39:25] Speaker B: you go.
[00:39:26] Speaker E: I love that
[00:39:27] Speaker C: I'm a few. Edward.
[00:39:29] Speaker E: I think in a similar vein of things kind of slowing down. I'm just enjoying being with people.
[00:39:33] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:39:34] Speaker E: I think you just kind of.
I don't want to say run the rat race, but, like, I mean, I think a lot of, you know, trying to do things here and there and do well academically, you know, you get to a point. I feel like I'm getting to the point senior year. I guess they call it senioritis or whatever, but I'm. I'm just like. I would rather just like, be with people and be with my people. I have a lot of great friends in my life, and I enjoy being around them and trying to slow things down and just soak it all in. Trying to experience.
To use Michael's example.
[00:40:09] Speaker B: I don't know if that's senioritis. I. I was thinking about this, too. I think it's just like you're kind of wrapping up school and you're.
You're, like, appreciating more.
[00:40:18] Speaker E: More sentimental.
[00:40:18] Speaker B: Yeah. What's in front of you. Because I think the first three years, you're kind of hurrying through, you're doing what a lot of what other people have told you to do.
[00:40:27] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:40:27] Speaker B: Because that's what is right for you. And I feel like senior year is a year for a lot of people, like, where they sit down like, okay, this is done in, what, eight months? I'm gonna do what I enjoy in college. So I think that's kind of what we call senioritis, in a sense. Not, like giving up on your classes. That is senioritis. But, like, hanging out with friends more and enjoying your time more.
[00:40:53] Speaker C: But it's not being lazy. You're being. Actually being mindful. You're
[00:40:57] Speaker B: being more mindful.
[00:40:58] Speaker C: Being present moment.
[00:40:59] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:40:59] Speaker B: It's productive, in a sense.
[00:41:02] Speaker D: Come back to me when you have two months left and tell me if you care about a Single thing in school.
Cause I did not. I didn't care.
Y' all want to do something tonight? Yep, I'm there.
[00:41:16] Speaker C: But you were taking advantage of the time, though.
[00:41:18] Speaker B: Yeah,
[00:41:18] Speaker D: absolutely.
[00:41:19] Speaker C: And look, we
[00:41:19] Speaker D: made it through. Yeah. You were
[00:41:21] Speaker B: productive in a sense.
[00:41:22] Speaker C: You
[00:41:22] Speaker D: know, I did have to worry about it, though. I mean, I have one class. I was like, are they really gonna fail me?
I
[00:41:29] Speaker C: remember. I remember you talking about, yes.
[00:41:31] Speaker D: Yeah. And then. And then all of us were like, no, no way.
[00:41:37] Speaker C: But, you know, but you. You prioritize having a good time.
[00:41:40] Speaker D: Yeah. Yeah. And I'm. And we can all look back on it and we're so glad we did.
[00:41:44] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:41:45] Speaker D: I mean.
[00:41:45] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:41:46] Speaker D: There's nothing better. This year has not been the same. So.
[00:41:49] Speaker C: So. So what's the. What's the best moment of your life right now, then? What would you say?
[00:41:53] Speaker D: I'd say taking on more responsibility. I'm. I'm like. I'm learning to appreciate that. I've got to think about, you know, a job, which luckily we. We already have. Yes,
[00:42:06] Speaker C: yes.
[00:42:07] Speaker D: Moving to a new place. That's coming, right?
[00:42:10] Speaker C: Birmingham. Yeah,
[00:42:11] Speaker D: Birmingham.
CPA exam.
And just a lot.
Getting older. So there's
[00:42:18] Speaker C: a lot
[00:42:18] Speaker D: of stuff I
[00:42:19] Speaker C: was gonna say. Is it harder to then sort of shift into that mindset of not necessarily appreciating what you have around you? But does it. Does having those kind of future oriented goals distract you in any way?
Or maybe not.
[00:42:39] Speaker D: I don't know. I kind of think they align. They
[00:42:41] Speaker C: align. Okay.
[00:42:42] Speaker D: More than. I mean, don't get me wrong. I definitely think about the goals, like, a lot.
[00:42:47] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:42:49] Speaker D: And that's something that's been different because, like, in college, you're in undergrad. Like, it'll all come. Like, I'll figure it out. Now we're at the point, like, oh, crap.
Yeah. That's why everybody asks, like, how you doing? I gotta get some stuff together. That's what I gotta do.
[00:43:06] Speaker C: Yeah, but it doesn't distract you. I
[00:43:08] Speaker D: don't think it distracts me.
I don't know. It's just different. But in a good way. I like it. Yeah. I mean, I wish I could do college over again, but at the same time, like, I couldn't. I care less if I don't get to do it again.
[00:43:22] Speaker B: See, I love the thing that you're loving right now is the exact opposite of Edward. And I, like, we don't have as much responsibility. Life is good. You're like, I'm. I got way too much and I love it.
[00:43:32] Speaker D: I kind of like it
[00:43:33] Speaker C: that. But that looking forward to that phase of life is really. There's a good way to.
[00:43:39] Speaker D: Yeah, I think work
[00:43:39] Speaker C: with
[00:43:40] Speaker D: it. And I've heard from a few people that claim college is nowhere near the best four years of your life.
[00:43:47] Speaker C: Huh.
[00:43:48] Speaker D: I guess we'll test that out.
But, I mean, I could see where it's not. I love weddings, so as long
[00:43:53] Speaker C: as
[00:43:53] Speaker D: they keep coming, I'm a happy man.
[00:43:55] Speaker C: Be good. Yeah. You're gonna be good with it.
[00:43:57] Speaker D: That's right.
[00:43:57] Speaker E: Weddings are fun.
[00:43:59] Speaker C: I love it.
[00:43:59] Speaker D: Oh, yeah. So much fun.
[00:44:00] Speaker C: I love it.
[00:44:01] Speaker E: Well, this has been a great segment. I'm excited to see, you know, what we. What we close it off with what we, you know, on the 18th, so to speak, what we do for this, this episode. This has been great. Thank you for listening. This is the Bama bal.
[00:44:31] Speaker F: Wvuafm Tuscaloosa.
[00:44:34] Speaker A: This show is not a substitute for professional counseling, and no relationship is created between the show hosts or guests and any listener. If you feel you are in need of professional mental health and are a UA student, we encourage you to contact the UA Counseling center at 348-3863. If you are not a UA student, please contact your respective county school crisis service hotline or their local mental health agency or insurance company. If it is an emergency situation, please call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.
[00:45:15] Speaker D: What's up, guys? Welcome back.
Outro segment. This has been great.
Super happy that Michael was able to stay and kind of hang out with us. I mean, yeah, none of us.
[00:45:26] Speaker B: I look forward to this happening. So I guess I didn't
[00:45:30] Speaker D: either.
[00:45:31] Speaker C: No, I mean, so. So Michael dropped by to. To pick up a bag of coffee because I was thinking about you as you were hiking the smoky mountains and I was in Atlanta and I went to this coffee shop that I like dancing goats, great coffee. And I thought, oh, I wonder if Michael might like this. So I picked up bag for you. So you came by to pick it up.
[00:45:51] Speaker B: You're the man.
[00:45:52] Speaker C: Brooks and Edward were here waiting, and we were just talking and you were helping us set up and thought, well, you know, do you just want to stay? So I'm glad you stayed.
[00:46:01] Speaker B: I got coercion to this.
[00:46:02] Speaker C: You're coerced.
Well, it worked out well in
[00:46:08] Speaker B: a great way.
[00:46:08] Speaker C: In a good way.
[00:46:09] Speaker E: You dropped fire quote.
[00:46:11] Speaker C: Oh, it's so good.
[00:46:13] Speaker D: Heck of a quote.
[00:46:14] Speaker E: Do you have. Do you have another one just like on the dome?
[00:46:16] Speaker B: Yep. I can do it right now. I was actually thinking about when you're when you're talking and your perspective was different than ours, like, you were looking forward to the exact opposite of.
[00:46:25] Speaker D: Yeah,
[00:46:26] Speaker B: what. Like what we're looking forward to right now.
So here's the quote.
Wait, let me think of the beginning of it.
Oh. The sound of an ambulance is just noise until it arrives at your door.
A crying baby on an airplane is annoying until you hear you can't have one. Your dad's lame stories are boring until you wish you can hear it one more time.
And your mom's phone calls asking where you are. Or annoying until you have no one else to talk to. Everything in life is just a perspective.
[00:46:57] Speaker D: Gosh dang, bro. I'm about to shed a tear.
[00:47:00] Speaker C: That's so good.
Where
[00:47:02] Speaker E: do these come from?
[00:47:04] Speaker D: You're a book of knowledge.
[00:47:05] Speaker B: I do my best. I write. I write these down and I read them.
[00:47:08] Speaker C: Yeah. Yeah. So do you have you. You collect quotes or. I.
[00:47:12] Speaker B: I collect quotes. No matter, like, how long they are. Like, they can be a full page.
[00:47:15] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:47:16] Speaker B: My goal with that, like, I'm like, I'm probably 20 pages in my little book is to have the whole thing done for when I do have a kid.
[00:47:26] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:47:27] Speaker B: So it's like, I guess my philosophy and looks so my kid can read those
[00:47:33] Speaker C: and
[00:47:34] Speaker B: kind of see how I thought.
[00:47:35] Speaker C: It's so good.
[00:47:36] Speaker B: I have a couple of them memorized.
[00:47:40] Speaker C: See, that's planning right there.
[00:47:42] Speaker D: That's fantastic.
[00:47:43] Speaker C: Isn't it?
[00:47:44] Speaker B: You should do it.
[00:47:45] Speaker E: I love that. Yeah.
[00:47:46] Speaker D: I mean, I don't know. You're probably looking forward to one day being able to give your kid that.
[00:47:52] Speaker B: Yeah, that's what I'm doing.
[00:47:52] Speaker D: So there's some stuff you should be excited for after college.
[00:47:56] Speaker B: No, I'm very excited for after college. I am.
But,
[00:47:59] Speaker D: like, when you get. When you get in that dole of being like, oh, this is going to
[00:48:03] Speaker B: be.
[00:48:04] Speaker D: Stuff like that. Yeah.
[00:48:04] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:48:05] Speaker D: It'll be fun.
[00:48:05] Speaker C: I think. That's so good.
[00:48:07] Speaker D: So,
[00:48:07] Speaker E: kids near future.
[00:48:09] Speaker B: Yeah. Kids in the future. Yeah.
[00:48:11] Speaker E: In the near future.
[00:48:12] Speaker B: No.
[00:48:13] Speaker E: Okay.
[00:48:15] Speaker B: Thanks for throwing that one out there.
[00:48:16] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:48:17] Speaker E: Always. Always.
[00:48:18] Speaker C: That is. That's neat. I like that. So I used to keep a similarly a book of quotes, but many of them had.
Were like, song lyrics. I don't know.
[00:48:27] Speaker B: That's pretty good
[00:48:28] Speaker C: out there, too.
Like, for the life of me, I can't remember them, but.
But there's some great song lyrics and just poetry or.
Or something from philosophy that I might read.
[00:48:41] Speaker B: Let's see. I love
[00:48:42] Speaker C: that. I don't know what happened to it. I can't I mean, honestly, I'd have to go digging, but I. I love the idea because it's something that means something to you, makes meaning, and it reflects kind of where you are in life.
[00:48:55] Speaker B: And it's nice to sit down periodically because I have stuff probably written down from, like, last year, too, which is not that long, like, life wise, but it's still nice to see. Like, that's what I was thinking then.
[00:49:05] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:49:06] Speaker B: Like, one of the quotes I wrote down last year was about music.
[00:49:08] Speaker C: Was
[00:49:09] Speaker B: like, music is the one thing.
Music is the one story of someone else's life that can make your own.
[00:49:19] Speaker C: I. That's good. I get it.
[00:49:22] Speaker D: Music's the greatest thing on earth.
[00:49:23] Speaker C: I get it.
[00:49:24] Speaker B: Without a doubt.
[00:49:25] Speaker C: I love it.
[00:49:26] Speaker B: What's everyone's favorite song right now before we end out?
[00:49:30] Speaker C: So off the cop. It's an R M song. REM Comes up.
Maybe it's sort of that pensive kind of thing, but I'm not sure exactly what song yet. It. It would be off of their auto. They're automatic for the People album.
And gosh, I'm blanking on. There are a number of great tracks.
Is it Night Swimming? Night Swimming. Maybe that's it.
[00:50:00] Speaker B: Okay, I'll listen to
[00:50:01] Speaker C: it. I can hear my head because it's. It's a great song.
[00:50:05] Speaker B: Love that.
[00:50:06] Speaker C: Yeah. It's essentially about swimming at night, and it's just that being aware of stars and things of that sort.
[00:50:18] Speaker B: That's
[00:50:19] Speaker C: great. It's great.
I love it.
[00:50:21] Speaker E: So do y' all know of a band called Nickel Creek?
[00:50:24] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:50:25] Speaker E: Yeah. When you come back down by Nickel Creek.
Love that song. It's good. It feels like
[00:50:30] Speaker C: fall. The
[00:50:31] Speaker E: song feels like fall to
[00:50:32] Speaker C: me.
[00:50:33] Speaker E: Although Christmas. It's Christmas time.
[00:50:35] Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
[00:50:36] Speaker C: We
[00:50:36] Speaker B: start listening to that.
[00:50:38] Speaker E: Yeah. November 1st.
[00:50:39] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:50:40] Speaker D: Ooh, yes.
I don't know. I'm looking outside. It's dark right now.
That's gonna be what's all Night Moves. Bob Seeger,
[00:50:52] Speaker C: always good
[00:50:53] Speaker D: Heartache tonight. Eagles.
Any Anything. Eagles. Anything.
[00:50:58] Speaker B: You kind of can't mess with that.
[00:50:59] Speaker C: I
[00:50:59] Speaker D: mean, I've got a bad problem with the Eagles.
Good problem. To have
[00:51:04] Speaker E: a
[00:51:05] Speaker D: bad problem.
[00:51:06] Speaker C: Yeah, that's a good problem.
[00:51:07] Speaker E: What have you been.
[00:51:09] Speaker B: You're an indie dude. You like indie music?
[00:51:11] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:51:11] Speaker B: You like Mac demarco?
[00:51:12] Speaker E: Oh, love Mac demarco.
[00:51:14] Speaker B: So bluegrass cover of Still Beating by Mac demarco.
[00:51:17] Speaker E: But the Corduroy Cadets.
[00:51:18] Speaker B: By the Corduroy Cadets. It has been on
[00:51:20] Speaker E: that
[00:51:20] Speaker B: replay. Yeah.
[00:51:21] Speaker E: That song is so good.
[00:51:22] Speaker B: It's so good. It's so nice. A little bit of a still guitar, a little bit of lap steel for an indie song.
[00:51:28] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:51:29] Speaker C: Good.
[00:51:30] Speaker B: Life is good.
[00:51:31] Speaker E: Dude, that just made my day.
[00:51:33] Speaker B: There we go.
[00:51:35] Speaker D: Life is good.
[00:51:38] Speaker C: Oh, nice call.
Nice call.
[00:51:41] Speaker D: Start rolling them off.
[00:51:42] Speaker B: Yeah,
[00:51:42] Speaker C: that's good
[00:51:43] Speaker D: now. This has been awesome, Michael. Thank you for joining us.
[00:51:51] Speaker B: This is great.
[00:51:51] Speaker D: Thanks for bringing us in, too. I know we threw the pressure on you there, but it's been a great time and I'm glad we all got to sit here and talk.
Felt like we needed it. So hopefully y' all got something out of the conversation. The two quotes, I might hang on to those. Those were good ones. But this will be it for us. This is the Bama Balance. Real stories about college students mental health. My name is Brooks Barbary.
[00:52:16] Speaker E: I'm Edward Fountain.
[00:52:17] Speaker C: I'm Dr. Toddy Perez.
[00:52:18] Speaker B: I'm Michael Dobbs.
[00:52:19] Speaker D: Y' all have a.
[00:52:37] Speaker F: Wvuafm Tuscaloosa.
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